Have you planned your baby's future yet?
Have you thought about what sports your baby will play when he/she gets older? Or what their personality will be like? Do you have any specific plans for your child?
I have a co-worker who insists I plan what sports my children will play now-My kids are currently 3 years and 15 months. My co-worker says my kids will be losers if they don’t play sports from an early age. Personally, I will be happy if they do any team activity-Whether it be sports, a club, choir, whatever.
EDIT: My co-worker is a middle aged father of 3 teenagers who play hockey and baseball. I share an office with him, so we talk a lot. He’s 5′1 and unathletic, and I’m pretty sure he lives his unrealized dreams through his kids lol.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
Your co worker sounds like she needs to remove stick from arsse! I know plenty of people who didn’t play sports as children and turned out just fine. I was never into sports, I was always artistic and creative so my Mom put me in fun art classes as a kid, I got to put my hands in clay and paint… and guess what I loved it and turned out to be a fine arts major in college. My husband never played sports either… he was into camping, boy scouts etc… and he turned out fine. Parents should want nothing but happiness for their children, doing whatever makes them happy… sports or otherwise. I plan on helping him explore life, nature, etc. There’s no need to make specific plans for him, I’ll support whatever he wants to do with his life so long as he’s healthy, happy and not harming others in the process… like drug dealing or something LOL!
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
Wow, your co-worker sounds like a real joy.
No, I haven’t planned any future whatsoever for Noah. What would be the point? For one, I want to enjoy our time we have NOW and for two who is to say that if I plan out any sport for him that he’s going to like it?
I’m going to leave that up to him. My husband, though, will gently nudge him in the direction of football. Lol.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
I will love my daughter no matter what she decides to do. She could not be in any activities and I would love her just the same. I will never try and tell her what to do with her life. It’s hers!
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
We have not really planned anything as yet, except for the school he will go as it needs to be that bilingual school for practical reasons (We will travel to live overseas at some stage).
We will try him at football too in the next few years, he’s only 3 at the moment.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
Wow.
Your co-worker strikes me as a controlling type..sheesh!
The only thing I ‘plan’ on is enrolling/encouraging my children to pursue a hobby that they are interested in. I plan on taking them to educational events at the zoo, take them to the beach, help them learn how to enjoy nature. I’m like you, I’ll be happy with any activity, choir, band, sports, whatever their interest may be, as long as they have something to keep them a bit further away from drugs and bad influences.
I do plan on talking to them and educating them on sex and drugs early, before someone else gets to them first…never know these days, even 8 year olds are taking marijuana to school! Scary stuff…
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
I plan on putting Georgia in an activity around 2, only because she is not around other children her age much, so I want her to be able to socialize. I haven’t picked out the activity. My fiance and I have discussed putting her in dance because she likes music, but we aren’t going to force her to do anything she doesn’t want to do. We will let her pick an activity she enjoys. I don’t think kids who aren’t in sports are losers, I think that is rather harsh.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
No I haven’t planned my sons life. I plan on letting him do that himself with some guidance from me. Of course I will encourage him to get involved in certain activities, but if he hates it then I wont hesitate to pull him out. My parents let me be who I wanted to be, and I’m pretty sure I turned out okay, I don’t want to be one of those pushy parents who makes my son do things he hates.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
I try not to show any preference, but I notice that my husband was thrilled when our big boy tried soccer(his thing), and now I am jazzed about him starting horseback riding(my thing). But every new thing he does is so cool to us, so we are going to love it when he is old enough to come up with his own hobbies/sports, whether or not it is in keeping with our interests.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
Heck no, my kid isnt’ even born yet. When he/she is old enough they can decide what sports/activities they’d like to try. I’m not going to force my kid into anyway of thinking (beyond what my own morals and values are that they will be raised with), that’s ridiculous to "plan" a kid’s personality. I didn’t play sports from a young age (I chose to play volleyball and do track in fourth/fifth grade and that’s it) and I wouldn’t call myself a loser. I think the kids that are forced into competition from young ages are the ones who wind up the most screwed up and the most resentful of their parents.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
u don’t control what happens to their personality. but u can always try.
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
I have had coworkers encourage sports or just some type of extracurricular activity that they really enjoy simply because it keeps them too busy to get into bad stuff and influences. I do believe in it since I personally went through a bored, lazy, hanging out with the wrong people time in my life. I think if I had been into something I would have avoided those people. On the other hand, though, jocks are not known to be the most upstanding kids so I will try a few things and just see what he enjoys. It sounds like your coworker was picked on by the jocks:). I know someone like that…Napoleon complex, ya think??
March 10th, 2010 at 5:36 pm
My daughter who is 28 months old, is going to be a star hockey player (per her dad) or a star ballet dancer (per her mom).
I would be THRILLED if she kept her butt in her toddler bed when I put her down to nap/bedtime!! : )